Dealing with Disappointment

In life there will be disappointments but the way you deal with them will determine your altitude. In my career, some would say, I have been in a season of disappointment. I call it a season of development. Currently at my job, I am in a leadership position but I wanted to transition to another area to develop additional skills.  At first, I was apprehensive about leaving because it was comfortable. I have strong connections that took years to develop. Also, I have a commitment to the community and I really love the kids and families.  Even though, I really love what I do, where I work, and the people I work with there comes a time when you need a change. Now, I always talk about taking action, so I did. In the past year, I applied for three positions that would have taken my skills to the next level but all of them ended in disappointment.

The first position I applied for I took the assessment, passed, and was put on the list. My position changed twice on the list each time higher than the place before. Then I received an email to go through the whole process again, so I did, but it still did not workout. I then interviewed for the second position and they offered me the job. I was so happy but I could not accept it because the salary was way to low. At that moment, I felt a sense of disbelief. Then I thought of the prayer I always say. I always ask God to open the doors that are meant for me and to close those doors that are not.  Even though I was disappointed, I still kept the faith and tried for this leadership intern program and I felt like this one was really the one. I had applied for this program last year and did not get pass the first round but this time, I made it to the last stage. I just knew this was the program for me but I was wrong again. Another door close, another disappointment, so what’s next, I said to myself.

That day when I received the bad news that I did not get into the program, you know what I did. I called my mom for my peep talk and it worked a little bit. My brother gave me words of encouragement and that helped a little more, but I still was disappointed. Then something happened, I came across a lady at Target who asked to pray for me and she let me know that God knows the desires of my heart and to be patient.

Then it hit me….

Continue to treats things that belong to others like it’s your own

You talent will make room for you

You want to walk in the Perfect will of GOD

What God has for me it is for ME

He has something better for you

Never Give Up

Try, Try, Try Again

Preparation is the key

Good Better, Best, never let it rest, until your better becomes your BEST

Be thankful

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Growing into You

Growing into YOU

There comes a time in life when you realize you are not where you think you should be. That’s when you have to grow into the part. This has happened to most people I know and even myself. At times, depending on what it is, I am still growing into that person I desire to be. The key is to start and never give up, because life is only fulfilling when you are growing. Most people have said to themselves, I should be farther along than this, I should have a better home, be an entrepreneur, make more money, or even have a family by now.  I say to those people, it is never to late to start becoming the person you desire to be.

The person you desire to be is just a mindset shift away. Maybe you are not that person because of the choices you have made and the road you have traveled. If this is the case, travel down a different road. It might be hard. There will be failures but this is all apart of the growing process. In order to grow there will be growing pains. The beauty of these growing pains are that they’re designed to shape you into the person you desire to be. There will be a process and your life will go through some seasons, but at the end, you will find the person you were looking for…The person you desire to BE…. 

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I will start first. 

I am growing into the part by enrolling myself into leadership programs to develop my leadership skills so I can become an instructional leader and mentor to other women.  

So how are you growing into the part? 

Leave a comment below telling me how you are growing into the part. 

You, Your biggest Obstacle

You, Your biggest OBSTACLE

Have you ever wondered why things in your life are going a certain way? Do you make excuses for not accomplishing your goals or blame other people? Well if you do, then it's time to reevaluate things. Do you realize that your stinking thinking is getting in the way of your greatest? The only thing that is truly an obstacle in your life is YOU. You determine what your life is going to be like based on your choices. 

I know, I know, some of you are saying "You don't understand, my life has been real hard. So, many things has happened to me." My response to that is, life has happened to everyone. Are you going to let life beat you or are you going to fight back? How do you do that ? Well, you make a choice to get out of your way. You stop using your past as an excuse and start living in the present and preparing for the future. So, what you didn't finish school, that's no excuse for not being successful. All you have to do is start again, re-enroll, and finish. Whatever excuse you use to not do something you need to dismiss it to better yourself. Let it go. Move the excuse out of the way and replace it with the choice to begin, regardless of what your past says. You are not your past, that's just a moment in time that helped you get to a new destination. The difference between the old you and the new you is that you have learned from your past and can make more informed  choices. So, if you are one of those people who are dwelling on your past move that obstacle out of the way because your destiny lies in the present. 

ACTIONS DETERMINE YOUR DESTINY

Actions Determine Your Destiny 

Actions speak louder than words and when your actions does not line up with what you say it affects your results. Have you ever talked about something you wanted to do but it never came to pass? If your words haven't come true yet, it could be that you are not putting any actions behind it. You say you want to go to College, but you did not apply. You say you want to loss weight, but you do not go to the gym, workout, or change your diet. You can say anything but the words do not become a reality until you incorporate some action. The difference between a successful person and an unsuccessful person is what they do, not what they say. 

People who are successful speak words to motivate themselves but they implement a plan and work the plan until their actions get them the desired results. They do not run around selling pipe dreams that never pass the lip service phase. Now, there is nothing wrong with dreams, but dreams that are never acted on are future regrets. When you see your actions are not yielding the desired results, you have to change your actions. Words accompanied by actions are powerful and can change the course of you life. What you speak, turns into what you believe, and what you believe becomes your actions. So, speak your dreams and let your Actions determine your destiny. 

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The Perfect Time is Now

What are you waiting for? The perfect time is now. 

We all have heard the saying don't put off tomorrow what you can do today, but even though we know that we keep procrastinating. It's never seems to be the right time or we are not in the right mind frame so we continue to wait and put off our dreams. At sometime in our life, we all have done this but when will it ever be time. Well, the time is NOW. There is no such thing as the perfect time or place to do anything. You have to create that perfect moment and that moment is NOW. Stop making your dreams a SHOULD and make them a MUST. When your dream becomes that thing that drives you to get you up in the morning, then you are in the process of creating that moment. That moment could take 2 weeks or 20 years , but when you are working towards your dream you feel accomplished, you feel your growth, and it creates a sense of happiness that is unexplainable. 

Now, your dream could be anything such as completing a 5k, writing a book, being a doctor, a motivational speaker, getting out of debt, or going on a trip to Paris. Whatever it is, it will take hard work, dedication, sacrifice, and consistency to make it happen. The goal is to start and never give up. Wake up each day and do something that will make your dream closer to reality. YES, there will be heartaches, setbacks, and disappointments but those are just opportunities for growth that will lead you to your final destination. Regardless of what the outcome is enjoy the journey because that's the place where you discover who you are and find out the essence of you being. So stop procrastinating, you will never know who you are if you keep waiting on that perfect moment. So start today and make this MOMENT PERFECT.

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LOST, STUCK, and DON'T KNOW WHERE TO BEGIN

Lost, Stuck, and Don't Know Where to Begin 

If you would have told me that I would feel lost, confused, and  unsure of myself after accomplishing one of my life long goals, I would have never believed it. It's funny how something you want so bad, doesn't live up to the hype after you get it. I thought after I received my Doctorate Degree that I would finally feel fulfilled and have it made, but boy was I wrong. 

In fact , I didn't feel smart at all. It's funny how an event that should have been so life changing brought out the insecurities of my childhood. When I was younger, I constantly battled with the notion of being good enough. How could a little girl from North Philadelphia be anything? I did not come from a family where the members had college degrees, my mom didn't have a high school diploma, and my father was a drug addict. So, how am I sitting here now as Dr. Wilson. I wasn't quite sure. I knew I put in the work. I stayed up countless nights writing my dissertation, and completing my course assignments. I wrote, revised, and resubmitted the dissertation numerous times...So, I know I have what it takes. 

I knew I deserved the title, but I didn't like people calling me Doctor. The truth is, that I didn't see myself as a Doctor and didn't feel I was worthy of the title, I rightfully earned. I didn't talk like a doctor, I didn't act like a doctor, so the shoes felt uncomfortable. Not only was I uncomfortable with being a Doctor, but I still did not have a clue what I wanted to be.  

Do not get me wrong, I enjoy being an Educator, but there was a bigger calling on my life. I just didn't know what it was and where to start.  I began to listen to inspirational speakers and ministers each day to get direction. Then a thought kept pulling at me. You like to inspire people and bring healing to them through sharing your life stories.

By nature, I am an encourager and many people have told me I should be a life coach. My reply has always been, but I need to get my life together first. How could I ever bring value to anyone else, if I didn't have these certain things myself.  So, I decided to take a step of faith and got rid of all those negative thoughts from my childhood. I decided to believe that I am more than enough. I am Dr. Wilson because I worked hard to be her. Being Dr. Wilson is the gateway to my destiny and part of my life journey to fulfill my purpose. My life goal is to encourage anyone that I come across to become the best person they can be and to find their purpose. Also, as I reveal myself to you, I hope it's healing for your soul, as it has been healing for mine.

Remember, do not let your past get in the way of your future. Your past is just a gateway to your purpose and destiny. If God gave you a dream, then he gave you all the tools to accomplish it. It doesn't matter where you are from, it just matters where you are going. 

Think Positive, Dream Big, Walk in Your Purpose

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Association Matters

Association Matter 

Have you ever been around a group of people and realized this group wasn't for you? Well, this happens when you associate with people that's are not like minded. I am not saying that the people you associate with have to be exactly life you. I am saying, you have to be around people who share the same values, beliefs, hobbies, and ambitions. Now, I know there are people that would say, I am strong enough to be around anyone. This is true, if you are only around them occasionally, but for most people, the wrong association could have a negative effect to their lives.

To accomplish your goals in life you have to associate with people that motivate you to be great. You have to surround yourself with people who have the qualities you want to develop in yourself. The people you associate with have to make you comfortable enough that you can learn from them and grow. That means you have to surround yourself with people who have what you want. Now determine what you want, find people who already accomplished it, and go after it because association matters. 

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