YOU STOPPED CARING

I thought I wanted to be a blogger. I wanted to motivate people and help them change their mindset so they could change their life.

But, I do not really write my Blog anymore. Did I stop caring about it? Did I stop caring about inspiring woman to be the best them they can possibly be?

Maybe I did. Has this ever happen to you? You start out on a journey and at first you are on fire then you realize that it's hard. Not a little hard, but extremely difficult and takes more dedication than you thought.

So, you stop doing what you set out to do. You come up with excuses that help you get over the fact that you “GAVE UP”, “YOU QUIT”.

Well this morning, I realized that I gave up, I gracefully bowed out. While taking my son to school, we listen to motivational speakers to set a positive tone to our day. A YouTube video titled “I’m Not Here To Be Average” was our choice and it had me thinking.. Thinking hard and I knew in that moment I had to write about it. I had to ask myself, “DID I STOP CARING?”

The gentleman went on to say, “You have to Care more than Normal and more than Necessary for your Results. Those who let themselves off the hook gave themselves permission not to Care anymore”.

This struck a cord in me because it was true. I gave myself permission not to care. Well, today I revoke that permission.

It does not matter how hard it is; It does not matter how much dedication it takes; I will accomplish my goals.

I will get up each morning complete the hardest task of my day. I will write for my blog.

If there is something you want to accomplish and it is difficult. Do not put it off to the end of the day. Do what is difficult FIRST. Completing your hardest task first thing in the morning will make you feel successful and create a positive start to your day. 

You might have to get up a little earlier, but the commitment to yourself will payoff in the end.

Even though, your goal might be a challenging ONE and even seem impossible don't give up and

Remember

You have to CARE more than NORMAL and more than NECESSARY about your RESULTS.

YOU WILL BE VICTORIOUS.

#DrSheenaSpeaks

#InspireU

WHO AM I ?

There comes a time in a woman’s life where she starts to wonder “WHO AM I”? The timing of this question is different for ever woman but no matter what it tends to arrive. Now some of you are saying, “Not me, I know who I am and I know what I want!”, but this question will still surface because things about you change.

In my twenties, I thought I had it all together, I was a wife, a mother, a career woman and as my children grew up I found myself getting lost in everyone’s world except my own. Yes, I did the basic things for myself like went to college and obtained several degrees to earn a better living for my family but, I was so consumed with making sure everyone was pursuing their dreams that I forgot all about mine. I stopped running, did not have any hobbies, began to gain weight, and then I realized I was unhappy.

Now, I was not unhappy with my life. I worked hard to have the lifestyle I was living but I lost me in the process. How many of you have lost yourself in the midst of taking care of your family and putting their needs first? A woman’s job is hard. She has to be a wife, mother, taxi, nurse, caregiver, professional, and the list goes on. These are just the roles you play, not really who you are.

WHO AM I? Is that special essence that makes you different from all the rest. It’s the thing that makes you get up in the morning and help you accomplish your goals. It’s that thing you fight to find because once you realize and obtain it you know you will be whole.

Now this journey will not be easy and you might take a while to find yourself again, but the soul searching will be worth it.

My Soul revealed that…..

I am
        a Writer

                      an  Author

                                   a  Runner

                                                  an Exhorter

                                                                                                                           

So, ladies, ask yourself “Who Am I?” and spend the rest of your life perfecting her.

#InspireU #DrWilsonspeaks

Guard Your Thoughts

Guard Your Thoughts 

Have you ever just been sitting there and your mind wonders and you can not figure out why you're thinking about a particular topic? It's because you are not guarding your thoughts. Your thoughts are influenced by the things you hear and see. Since this is the case, it's important to watch who you constantly associate with, what you watch on TV, what you listen to on the radio, and what you read.

All these things shape your mind and influence your thoughts. I am not saying, not to watch certain types of TV shows, but if you are battling with your thoughts on an issue, it's not wise to look at shows that glorify what you a trying to dispel. Your thoughts are so important. They are what drive you. Your thoughts can make or break you because they turn into actions. Since thoughts turned into actions, it's important to feed them positive images. These thoughts help you make your decisions which dictates what happens in your life. 

If you want to change your way of thinking and guard your thoughts, you can begin each day by praying, watching an inspirational video, reading something that motivates you, listening to something spiritual, or by saying affirmations. This will help enhance your thoughts and protect your mind. So, guard your mind, develop your positive thoughts, and begin to renew your spirit. 

#InspireU

#DrWilson

#Developingmindbodysoul

Dealing with Disappointment

In life there will be disappointments but the way you deal with them will determine your altitude. In my career, some would say, I have been in a season of disappointment. I call it a season of development. Currently at my job, I am in a leadership position but I wanted to transition to another area to develop additional skills.  At first, I was apprehensive about leaving because it was comfortable. I have strong connections that took years to develop. Also, I have a commitment to the community and I really love the kids and families.  Even though, I really love what I do, where I work, and the people I work with there comes a time when you need a change. Now, I always talk about taking action, so I did. In the past year, I applied for three positions that would have taken my skills to the next level but all of them ended in disappointment.

The first position I applied for I took the assessment, passed, and was put on the list. My position changed twice on the list each time higher than the place before. Then I received an email to go through the whole process again, so I did, but it still did not workout. I then interviewed for the second position and they offered me the job. I was so happy but I could not accept it because the salary was way to low. At that moment, I felt a sense of disbelief. Then I thought of the prayer I always say. I always ask God to open the doors that are meant for me and to close those doors that are not.  Even though I was disappointed, I still kept the faith and tried for this leadership intern program and I felt like this one was really the one. I had applied for this program last year and did not get pass the first round but this time, I made it to the last stage. I just knew this was the program for me but I was wrong again. Another door close, another disappointment, so what’s next, I said to myself.

That day when I received the bad news that I did not get into the program, you know what I did. I called my mom for my peep talk and it worked a little bit. My brother gave me words of encouragement and that helped a little more, but I still was disappointed. Then something happened, I came across a lady at Target who asked to pray for me and she let me know that God knows the desires of my heart and to be patient.

Then it hit me….

Continue to treats things that belong to others like it’s your own

You talent will make room for you

You want to walk in the Perfect will of GOD

What God has for me it is for ME

He has something better for you

Never Give Up

Try, Try, Try Again

Preparation is the key

Good Better, Best, never let it rest, until your better becomes your BEST

Be thankful

#InspireU

#DrWilson

ACTIONS DETERMINE YOUR DESTINY

Actions Determine Your Destiny 

Actions speak louder than words and when your actions does not line up with what you say it affects your results. Have you ever talked about something you wanted to do but it never came to pass? If your words haven't come true yet, it could be that you are not putting any actions behind it. You say you want to go to College, but you did not apply. You say you want to loss weight, but you do not go to the gym, workout, or change your diet. You can say anything but the words do not become a reality until you incorporate some action. The difference between a successful person and an unsuccessful person is what they do, not what they say. 

People who are successful speak words to motivate themselves but they implement a plan and work the plan until their actions get them the desired results. They do not run around selling pipe dreams that never pass the lip service phase. Now, there is nothing wrong with dreams, but dreams that are never acted on are future regrets. When you see your actions are not yielding the desired results, you have to change your actions. Words accompanied by actions are powerful and can change the course of you life. What you speak, turns into what you believe, and what you believe becomes your actions. So, speak your dreams and let your Actions determine your destiny. 

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#Developingmindbodysoul

Association Matters

Association Matter 

Have you ever been around a group of people and realized this group wasn't for you? Well, this happens when you associate with people that's are not like minded. I am not saying that the people you associate with have to be exactly life you. I am saying, you have to be around people who share the same values, beliefs, hobbies, and ambitions. Now, I know there are people that would say, I am strong enough to be around anyone. This is true, if you are only around them occasionally, but for most people, the wrong association could have a negative effect to their lives.

To accomplish your goals in life you have to associate with people that motivate you to be great. You have to surround yourself with people who have the qualities you want to develop in yourself. The people you associate with have to make you comfortable enough that you can learn from them and grow. That means you have to surround yourself with people who have what you want. Now determine what you want, find people who already accomplished it, and go after it because association matters. 

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HEALING FOR THE SOUL: WHAT IS YOUR WORTH

What's Your Worth 

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Women complain that men do them wrong, but is that really the case? Ask yourself, who is responsible for your life? Who controls your happiness? The answer is, You. You determine what goes on in your life , so why do you give men that much power. If a person does not treat you the way you want to be treated, you have two options, to accept it or reject it. The problem is that too many of us accept the mistreatment in hopes that the man will change. Well, why would he change. You don't require him to do anything differently because you constantly accept the mistreatment. Yeah, you get mad, curse him out, destroy his things, but run back to him like you owe him something. 

The question is what is your worth? How do you expect someone to treat you right, it you don't love yourself enough to demand proper treatment. At all times, you need to know your worth and settle for nothing less. It's like thinking you brought a name brand pocketbook and realized you got a knockoff. Now, all of us have been mistreatment at one time or another, but things didn't change until we demanded something different by changing our actions and our response to our offender. In some cases, our change of action caused our mates to treat us better, but in other cases we had to leave because they kept doing the same thing. All cases are different, but one thing remains the same. You have to love you and treat yourself right first. Know that you are more than enough and that you are the prize. You have to know your worth, treat yourself right, demand proper treatment and accept nothing less...You are worth it and your happiness depends on it. 

NOT Designed To Break

 

It is funny how situations that are designed to break you, make you stronger. While the situation is going on, it feels like there is no way out. 

The situation makes you feel helpless and the outcome seems hopeless but for some reason or some how you come out victorious.

Under any circumstance, you can have two different responses, one of Possibilities and the other of Defeat.

Why do people always assume that a bad situation deem negative results, that's not always true. You determine if you will grow or if the situation will break you. 

The results might feel negative in the beginning, but when you see the change in your life then you realize you are better off. 

At times, God allows things to happen to you to make you stronger or to prepare you for something better. In life, we will have many journeys, some positive, some negative, and some indifferent, but the ultimate outcome to any of these moments are determined by what you've learned from them. 

I know, I have learned the most from my darkest moments when I felt like I was going to break. 

Then I found the strength to go on and it was the beginning of something new and beautiful. 

At that moment I knew, I might bend but I would never break. 

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#Developingthemindbodyandsoul

CHANGE BEGINS WITH U

Change begins with U

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People complain about their lives and often do not realize how much control they have over the outcome. Some believe that the state of their existence is a result of some outside factor that they could not control, but that's not true. 

Now, there are some things in your life you can't control like who your parents are, the way you grew up and things of that nature, but as you get older the responsibility of your life becomes yours. In that case, if you don't like things about you life, you are just a decision away from making it different. 

All you have to do is make a change. Some changes will come as a result of one choice but others may take a sequence  of choices which will ultimately lead to your goal. Now you can't expect to sit by the way side and hope things will change, you have to make this change happen. 

You have to become the change you want.