HEALING FOR THE SOUL: WHAT IS YOUR WORTH

What's Your Worth 

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Women complain that men do them wrong, but is that really the case? Ask yourself, who is responsible for your life? Who controls your happiness? The answer is, You. You determine what goes on in your life , so why do you give men that much power. If a person does not treat you the way you want to be treated, you have two options, to accept it or reject it. The problem is that too many of us accept the mistreatment in hopes that the man will change. Well, why would he change. You don't require him to do anything differently because you constantly accept the mistreatment. Yeah, you get mad, curse him out, destroy his things, but run back to him like you owe him something. 

The question is what is your worth? How do you expect someone to treat you right, it you don't love yourself enough to demand proper treatment. At all times, you need to know your worth and settle for nothing less. It's like thinking you brought a name brand pocketbook and realized you got a knockoff. Now, all of us have been mistreatment at one time or another, but things didn't change until we demanded something different by changing our actions and our response to our offender. In some cases, our change of action caused our mates to treat us better, but in other cases we had to leave because they kept doing the same thing. All cases are different, but one thing remains the same. You have to love you and treat yourself right first. Know that you are more than enough and that you are the prize. You have to know your worth, treat yourself right, demand proper treatment and accept nothing less...You are worth it and your happiness depends on it. 

NOT Designed To Break

 

It is funny how situations that are designed to break you, make you stronger. While the situation is going on, it feels like there is no way out. 

The situation makes you feel helpless and the outcome seems hopeless but for some reason or some how you come out victorious.

Under any circumstance, you can have two different responses, one of Possibilities and the other of Defeat.

Why do people always assume that a bad situation deem negative results, that's not always true. You determine if you will grow or if the situation will break you. 

The results might feel negative in the beginning, but when you see the change in your life then you realize you are better off. 

At times, God allows things to happen to you to make you stronger or to prepare you for something better. In life, we will have many journeys, some positive, some negative, and some indifferent, but the ultimate outcome to any of these moments are determined by what you've learned from them. 

I know, I have learned the most from my darkest moments when I felt like I was going to break. 

Then I found the strength to go on and it was the beginning of something new and beautiful. 

At that moment I knew, I might bend but I would never break. 

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CHANGE BEGINS WITH U

Change begins with U

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People complain about their lives and often do not realize how much control they have over the outcome. Some believe that the state of their existence is a result of some outside factor that they could not control, but that's not true. 

Now, there are some things in your life you can't control like who your parents are, the way you grew up and things of that nature, but as you get older the responsibility of your life becomes yours. In that case, if you don't like things about you life, you are just a decision away from making it different. 

All you have to do is make a change. Some changes will come as a result of one choice but others may take a sequence  of choices which will ultimately lead to your goal. Now you can't expect to sit by the way side and hope things will change, you have to make this change happen. 

You have to become the change you want.

Dispel the Lies

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Here is What I Know about Lying and Detecting Lies.)

What thoughts are you thinking about yourself that you constantly repeat in your mind or speak out of your mouth that is not true?

I am not smart enough, I can't do that, no one would ever want me, and I am not good enough...

The list could go on, but all these things are lies.

You have to dispel the lies that your past experience has made you believe. The truth is, you will become what you think. So, you have to think positive thoughts about yourself and dismiss all the false truths your life circumstances have caused you to believe. I know you are saying, I wasn't good at school, I had several bad relationships, no one ever found me worthy, but these things are all lies that are controlling you and keeping you from being the perfect you.

To dispel the lies you have to replace it with the truth.

The truth is, that you are fearfully and wonderfully made in God's image, and God doesn't make junk. You are the perfect you. You are beautiful, intelligent, worthy and able to accomplish anything you set your mind to achieve. 

You have to activate these thoughts by telling yourself how wonderful you are each day. When those lies come into your mind you have to replace them with the truth. You have to look at yourself in the mirror each day and tell yourself why you are great. If this does not work, you have to post notes on your mirror about how great your are and recite it ever time you walk by. So, dispel all those negative images with positives thoughts and enjoy being that perfect you, because she is fabulous.

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.30 Motivation / Be Committed To You

Be Committed to You

In order to accomplish your goals, you have to BE COMMITTED TO YOU. We keep our commitments to other people but turn around and short change ourselves. This happens because we forget to plan time to develop, motivate, and encourage the most important person in our life, OURSELVES. 

My Activity Calendar, which is featured below, shows how I make time for myself each day to help me become the best person I can be.  I monitor how well I am keeping my commitment to myself each week by tracking my activity completions.





This calendar could be used for your fitness goal or any other activity you would like to consistently perform such as writing, reading, painting, or just working on your hobby. 

Remember, you can not get mad at others if you do not take care of yourself, because YOU HAVE TO BE COMMITTED TO YOU before anyone else. 

Now, what commitment will you make to yourself? Leave me a comment below. 

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Welcome 2017!

Welcome 2017!

Happy New Year Everyone,

Did you make your New Year Resolution yet? Are you worried about keeping it or did you just decided not to make any? Well, if keeping your New Year’s Resolution is a concern, it’s just a mindset change away.

I am one of those people that do not make New Year Resolutions.  Why, you might ask? Well, for me I make resolutions all through the year. For one, my resolution was to start writing my blog and make my first post on January 1, 2017. I made that resolution back in September. I created a plan where I had to write at least 4 times a week and I monitored my progress weekly. This was the start of my blog becoming a reality.

Now, some people call them resolutions but I just say it’s goal setting.

Your New Year can start anytime you want it to by just setting goals. You do not have to wait until January 1st. Goal setting is easy but accomplishing them can be very challenging, if you are not focused. So, here are some tips on how to make your New Year's  Resolutions a reality.  Now, this approach might not work for all, but it works for me.

Steps to Making Your New Year's Resolution a Reality

First, establish what your goal is and create a timeline.

Secondly, create a plan. Use a calendar and plan out what you will do daily to help you get closer to your goal.

Then, execute you plan and keep track of your progress by crossing out the things on your calendar you completed that day that was associated with your goal.

Hold yourself accountable by reviewing your calendar weekly to make sure you are consistent with your plan.  If your plan is not working for you because you were too ambitious, revise your plan.

Finally, when you reach the deadline for your goal, assess if you met your goal, if not continue until you do.

This is what helped me accomplish my goal of posting my Blog. Maybe, it will help you too.

Helpful Tips: I keep my action board beside my bed so I review it daily.
(Calendar, inspirational quotes, reminders, goals, focus of the month)

Now, you do not have to make it fancy. It does not have to be extra neat as you can see. It is a working document like you are a work of Art. Get started today, just decide.

 

What is your goal for 2017? What steps are you going to take to make that goal a reality? Let me know, comment below.